I wanna start out this post by saying, you wanna come here and run your mouth like you're 14 years old and talk trash about my child, you're cool. Get a life, and grow the hell up. Psychos. You wanna disagree politely, go for it. But when you resort to name calling and petty insults (cough shelleybomb/deirdra cough) you're pathetic. I'll delete every comment you post, don't clog my blog with your ignorant filth.
Ok, let's start with one of my BIGGEST parenting pet peeves: anti
vaccination activists. 99% of anti vaccine activists that I have spoken
to spread nothing but misinformation and have no clue what they're
talking about, they just jumped on the bandwagon because it's the "in"
thing to do and are repeating whatever they were told by Google or their
neighbor or a Facebook page. If you're going to make a life decision
like that, AT LEAST do your research. And when I say research, I don't
mean some site written by a nutritionist who never went to medical
school, or by a celebrity or a therapist. I mean a real doctor or a
scientist.
These are some examples of reasons you SHOULD vaccinate your children, and also corrections to many anti-vaccine myths:
1.
Vaccines do NOT cause autism. Autism is genetic, not related to
vaccines at all. The man who came out with the British study "proving" a
link between the two, Dr. Andrew Wakefield, was outed as a complete
fraud, and anybody who still believes that crap is a complete idiot. A
lot of people like to say he was discredited on purpose and act like it
was some big conspiracy, when in reality he went on CNN and admitted
that he falsified results.
MMR vaccine and autism
CNN article calling British Study Linking Vaccines and Autism an Elaborate Fraud
2.When more and more people stop vaccinating, herd immunity dies, which
puts people who are immune compromised and can't get the vaccines at far
greater risk of developing infectious diseases that they would
otherwise have been protected from.
3. When people tell you all about the horrible "poisons" in vaccines,
they fail to take into account the AMOUNT of these chemicals that are
actually in the vaccines, which is SO miniscule that there is no way it
will actually "poison" you.
4. There is no link between SIDS and vaccines. Nobody knows the cause of
SIDS, if they did it wouldn't be called "Sudden Infant Death Syndrome".
The definition of SIDS is when an autopsy cannot determine the cause of
death in the SUDDEN DEATH of an infant. So people swearing that all of
this crap causes SIDS is ridiculous, because there's no way for anyone
to know that.
5. Doctors are not tricking you into vaccinating, they aren't lying to
you, and there is no secret hidden agenda to kill your kid and push
vaccines. My daughter is on Medicaid, do you really think her doctor
makes millions of dollars off vaccinating her? More like losing money.
Doctors are not paid by the number of vaccines they give or
prescriptions they write, so people who say that have absolutely no idea
what they are talking about.
6.Vaccines are so strictly regulated that it takes an average of 15
years and 800 million dollars of the manufacturers money to get a
vaccine licensed. Since 1990, the Vaccine Safety Datalink (VSD) has
collected statistics from more than 7 million people in health plans who
have received vaccines. So after 800 million dollars, 15 years, and 22
years of collecting data, with vaccines still being strongly supported
by the medical community, I'm thinking I'll listen to somebody who went
to medical school over a celebrity or a facebook page, and you should
too.
7. Whenever anyone tells you there is Mercury in vaccines, laugh at
them. A lot. There was never mercury in vaccines, there was a
Mercury-based preservative, Thimerosal, in most vaccines until 2002 when
they started removing it, and as of 2011 the only vaccines that still
contain Thimerosal are multi-dose flu shots and tetanus shots. The
difference between multi-dose and single-dose flu shots is the
packaging, multi-dose is a vial that stores enough vaccine for 10 shots
and therefore needs the preservative to keep it from being contaminated
by bacteria after opening. Single-dose are just what it says, either a
pre-filled syringe or a small plastic container only holding one shot.
If you are really that concerned about the presence of Thimerosal, find a
clinic offering single-dose shots or just don't get a flu shot at all. CDC Thimerosal and Flu Shots
8. Just because somebody's kid happened to die of SIDS 2 days after
getting vaccinated, or developed Tourette's or Asperger's, that does not
mean the vaccine is to blame. That's like saying I ate grapes earlier
and now I have heartburn, obviously grapes cause heartburn let's put an
insert in every grape saying it might give people heartburn. Or hey I
watched a scary movie yesterday and now I have an eczema outbreak, scary
movies must cause eczema. It's ridiculous.
9. Just because the insert says it, that doesn't mean it has actually
been scientifically proven without a doubt to be caused by vaccines. The
FDA wants to cover their asses, and therefore anything that hasn't been
proven NOT to be caused by vaccines that MAY be linked to vaccines is
in the insert. That doesn't mean that when one of the 6,000 rare
possible side effects happens to your kid that the vaccine is definitely
the cause.
10.
Doctors do not make money off vaccines. They do not "push" vaccines
because they want to line their pockets. Doctors make nothing off
vaccines, and the companies that manufacture then actually LOSE money
because insurance companies pay less than what it costs to make them.
Doctors push vaccines to protect your child and keep them healthy, not
to get rich. Immunize For Good Study posted in Pediatrics
11.
Some people like to say that people who are vaccinated get sick more
often than non-vaccinated people, but that is very untrue. The people
who say this fail to take into account that way more people are
vaccinated than aren't, and they look at numbers and percentages without
figuring that part in. If you have 100 people, 85 of them are
vaccinated and 15 are not. Say 10 of the vaccinated people got sick, and
only 3 of the non-vaccinated ones did. That makes it look like
vaccinated people are more likely to get sick, if you fail to account
for the fact that there are 70 more vaccinated than unvaccinated, so if
you look at percentages according to how many people there were, 20% of
the non-vaccinated people got sick, compared to 11.8% of the vaccinated
ones. CDC Common Misconceptions About Vaccinating
These are only a few of the reason why you NEED to vaccinate your
children. I'm going to post a few links below to reputable, informative vaccine sites.
VaccinateYourBaby.org (awesome pro vax site, very informative)
Immunize For Good
CDC
Wednesday, February 29, 2012
Tuesday, February 28, 2012
Marriage-More Than A Piece Of Paper
Something fairly disturbing has come to my attention as of last night. I posted on a couple of Facebook pages that marriage is more than just a piece of paper and I find it disrespectful to say that, and I think unless you are actually married you should not call each other husband and wife because you ARE NOT married, and if you want the title so bad then get married. Tell a gay person who is fighting for the right to marry their partner of 20 years that all they're fighting for is a stupid piece of paper. People got REALLY offended and upset over it, and most people actually disagreed with me on the subject and said marriage means nothing to them and just because I think it's important, most people actually don't. This appalls me on so many levels, and it shows me why the divorce rate is so high.
Marriage is A LOT more than a piece of paper. It is a promise to be with that person through everything for the rest of your lives. It is a promise before God, and it is a legal promise. If two people are in a relationship and they break up, they can break up. No big deal. You just go your separate ways. If you are legitimately married, it takes a lot more to just up and call it quits. Calling somebody your husband or wife when you could easily end up breaking up is just wrong. I understand that the divorce rate is high, but a big reason that it is is because so many people think marriage is just a piece of paper and it's no big deal. If people actually took marriage seriously, maybe it wouldn't be such a huge issue. People think oh if it doesn't work out we can just get divorced, which is a shitty way to think. If I ever get married, it will be because I am 100% sure that I will be with that person for life. I understand that stuff happens and things don't always work out like you planned, but I fully believe that marriage is important and sacred and more people need to realize that and take it seriously.
If you want to call each other husband and wife, make it true. If you are just "married in your hearts" if your significant other is on life support, you have no say in their care because you are not married. You don't get insurance benefits from any job they have, and you can't file taxes together (as far as I know, I may be wrong on that one). So no, being "married in your hearts" is not a real marriage. It costs like 30 bucks to go to the court house and get married. You do not need a big fancy wedding so the cost isn't a good excuse either. If you are not married, your boyfriend/girlfriend is not your husband or wife, and it bothers me to no end that people throw those words around like it's nothing, and then get offended if someone has a problem with it.
Homosexuals have been fighting for the right to get married for YEARS. Saying it doesn't matter and it's only a piece of paper is disrespectful to them and for everything they've fought to accomplish. Ask a gay man who has been with his partner for 20 years and can't legally get married whether marriage is no big deal and nothing but a piece of paper. In fact, tell him that what he is fighting for isn't important and doesn't matter and see how fast you get slapped. You think it's no big deal until you are denied the right to do it at all, then I bet you would change your mind.
People love to use the high divorce rate as an argument against marriage, when actually it is the opposite. What that proves is that too many people DON'T take marriage seriously and think it's only a piece of paper. Getting divorced is considered no big deal, and that's wrong. Divorce should be a LAST resort, not oh I don't love you anymore or I wanna sleep with other people so let's just get divorced. Marriage should be for life, it is a lifetime commitment. If more people thought the way that I do and didn't see it as a joke, divorce wouldn't be as much of a problem.
Lastly, I do not care what bs excuse you have for saying marriage isn't important and you call your boyfriend your hubby. Nothing you say is going to change my mind, and getting defensive and offended over it is ridiculous. There is no excuse for doing it unless you are gay, because in a lot of places they can't legally marry. It's a huge slap in the face for people who do take marriage seriously. If you are that determined to be husband and wife, why not actually get married? I've heard people say they don't want to be legally obligated to the other person, and if that's true then you shouldn't marry them, and you shouldn't call them your husband or wife since you obviously have doubts it will last forever and don't wanna be legally obligated to make it last.
Marriage is A LOT more than a piece of paper. It is a promise to be with that person through everything for the rest of your lives. It is a promise before God, and it is a legal promise. If two people are in a relationship and they break up, they can break up. No big deal. You just go your separate ways. If you are legitimately married, it takes a lot more to just up and call it quits. Calling somebody your husband or wife when you could easily end up breaking up is just wrong. I understand that the divorce rate is high, but a big reason that it is is because so many people think marriage is just a piece of paper and it's no big deal. If people actually took marriage seriously, maybe it wouldn't be such a huge issue. People think oh if it doesn't work out we can just get divorced, which is a shitty way to think. If I ever get married, it will be because I am 100% sure that I will be with that person for life. I understand that stuff happens and things don't always work out like you planned, but I fully believe that marriage is important and sacred and more people need to realize that and take it seriously.
If you want to call each other husband and wife, make it true. If you are just "married in your hearts" if your significant other is on life support, you have no say in their care because you are not married. You don't get insurance benefits from any job they have, and you can't file taxes together (as far as I know, I may be wrong on that one). So no, being "married in your hearts" is not a real marriage. It costs like 30 bucks to go to the court house and get married. You do not need a big fancy wedding so the cost isn't a good excuse either. If you are not married, your boyfriend/girlfriend is not your husband or wife, and it bothers me to no end that people throw those words around like it's nothing, and then get offended if someone has a problem with it.
Homosexuals have been fighting for the right to get married for YEARS. Saying it doesn't matter and it's only a piece of paper is disrespectful to them and for everything they've fought to accomplish. Ask a gay man who has been with his partner for 20 years and can't legally get married whether marriage is no big deal and nothing but a piece of paper. In fact, tell him that what he is fighting for isn't important and doesn't matter and see how fast you get slapped. You think it's no big deal until you are denied the right to do it at all, then I bet you would change your mind.
People love to use the high divorce rate as an argument against marriage, when actually it is the opposite. What that proves is that too many people DON'T take marriage seriously and think it's only a piece of paper. Getting divorced is considered no big deal, and that's wrong. Divorce should be a LAST resort, not oh I don't love you anymore or I wanna sleep with other people so let's just get divorced. Marriage should be for life, it is a lifetime commitment. If more people thought the way that I do and didn't see it as a joke, divorce wouldn't be as much of a problem.
Lastly, I do not care what bs excuse you have for saying marriage isn't important and you call your boyfriend your hubby. Nothing you say is going to change my mind, and getting defensive and offended over it is ridiculous. There is no excuse for doing it unless you are gay, because in a lot of places they can't legally marry. It's a huge slap in the face for people who do take marriage seriously. If you are that determined to be husband and wife, why not actually get married? I've heard people say they don't want to be legally obligated to the other person, and if that's true then you shouldn't marry them, and you shouldn't call them your husband or wife since you obviously have doubts it will last forever and don't wanna be legally obligated to make it last.
Monday, February 27, 2012
Internet Is Serious
One big thing that I don't understand is why people spend so much time being offended by what somebody says in the internet. It makes no sense to obsess over somebody or over a Facebook page and post a five paragraph long rant about how offended you are by them or what they said or their language or whatever. If you don't like somebody, don't talk to them. It's the internet. Bitching and throwing a tantrum isn't going to really affect them and you just look stupid and pathetic.
Ultra PC jerk offs bug the crap out of me more than just about anyone. I was actually told yesterday that talking about autistic children is disrespectful because the correct terminology is "children with autism". And I was told today that saying gay marriage is offensive and the correct term is "marriage equality". The Toys R Us ad for special needs kids this year, instead of saying for special needs kids, said "for children with special learning requirements." You can't say retarded, you can't say gay, you can't say stupid, you can't say this or that or blah blah blah or somebody will cry and cut themselves and explode. It's ridiculous. Every single day I hear a new word that you aren't supposed to say or OMG you're so rude and offensive! Why do you care so much? What does it matter what some random person on the internet that you will never meet thinks or says? Get over it, you bitching about how rude they are won't change anything, it's pointless and a total waste of time and energy. If somebody offends you or you don't like them, don't talk to them. If it's on Facebook, block them. Sounds logical, right?
Do you know what a troll is? A troll is somebody who purposely says rude and offensive things just to bother people. They think it is absolutely hilarious to see how big of a fit they can get people to throw, and they sit back and laugh about it. When there is no reaction, the trolls stop trolling. It's not fun when nobody is offended. If there is a page on Facebook called I love abortions or Dead babies taste delicious or Chester Child Molester it was made for a reaction, basically meaning when you post all over the wall how you're so offended and they're a horrible person who is going to rot in hell and threaten to kill them and call the FBI you're doing exactly what they wanted and they're sitting at their computer laughing hysterically. They don't actually love abortions or eat dead babies or molest children. They are doing it to piss people off and offend them. Don't give them a reaction, and they will stop.
Going out of your way to bash somebody or tell them how much they suck and how mean they are on the internet is the most colossal waste of time basically ever. There is about a 2% chance they actually care about you or your opinion. There are things you could spend your time and energy doing that would be far more productive. If someone online bothers you that much, get off the computer. Watch a movie, take a walk, play with your kid. Do your nails, eat a snack. Do something that makes you happy, chill out, and realize that they might be a jerk but their opinion doesn't matter because THEY don't matter. Be the bigger person and just don't say anything, ignore them. The internet is a place where anybody can say anything they want and not get punched in the face, and people love to take advantage of that.
Ultra PC jerk offs bug the crap out of me more than just about anyone. I was actually told yesterday that talking about autistic children is disrespectful because the correct terminology is "children with autism". And I was told today that saying gay marriage is offensive and the correct term is "marriage equality". The Toys R Us ad for special needs kids this year, instead of saying for special needs kids, said "for children with special learning requirements." You can't say retarded, you can't say gay, you can't say stupid, you can't say this or that or blah blah blah or somebody will cry and cut themselves and explode. It's ridiculous. Every single day I hear a new word that you aren't supposed to say or OMG you're so rude and offensive! Why do you care so much? What does it matter what some random person on the internet that you will never meet thinks or says? Get over it, you bitching about how rude they are won't change anything, it's pointless and a total waste of time and energy. If somebody offends you or you don't like them, don't talk to them. If it's on Facebook, block them. Sounds logical, right?
Do you know what a troll is? A troll is somebody who purposely says rude and offensive things just to bother people. They think it is absolutely hilarious to see how big of a fit they can get people to throw, and they sit back and laugh about it. When there is no reaction, the trolls stop trolling. It's not fun when nobody is offended. If there is a page on Facebook called I love abortions or Dead babies taste delicious or Chester Child Molester it was made for a reaction, basically meaning when you post all over the wall how you're so offended and they're a horrible person who is going to rot in hell and threaten to kill them and call the FBI you're doing exactly what they wanted and they're sitting at their computer laughing hysterically. They don't actually love abortions or eat dead babies or molest children. They are doing it to piss people off and offend them. Don't give them a reaction, and they will stop.
Going out of your way to bash somebody or tell them how much they suck and how mean they are on the internet is the most colossal waste of time basically ever. There is about a 2% chance they actually care about you or your opinion. There are things you could spend your time and energy doing that would be far more productive. If someone online bothers you that much, get off the computer. Watch a movie, take a walk, play with your kid. Do your nails, eat a snack. Do something that makes you happy, chill out, and realize that they might be a jerk but their opinion doesn't matter because THEY don't matter. Be the bigger person and just don't say anything, ignore them. The internet is a place where anybody can say anything they want and not get punched in the face, and people love to take advantage of that.
Sunday, February 26, 2012
Big IS Beautiful
I have posted about this before, but i feel I should do it again. I hear a lot of bigger women put themselves down and talk about how they feel ugly and hate themselves and hate how they look. Being overweight may not be the healthiest thing in the world, but it DOES NOT make you ugly! Some of the most gorgeous women I know are plus sized. You can be big and still be beautiful. Weight and beauty do not go together, you can weigh 400 lbs and still be gorgeous. Plus size women need to stop looking at all these 110 lb celebrities and supermodels and thinking that is how you have to be or what you have to look like in order to be attractive, because it is 100% false.
Confidence plays a huge part in how people perceive you. If you have confidence and class, it shows. Regardless of your weight, remind yourself every single day how beautiful you are. Ignore the haters, because if they have nothing better to do with their time than be nasty and insult you, they're the ones who are pathetic and obviously have something missing in their lives to feel the need to put somebody else down. If you feel fat and unattractive and think you're ugly, it shows. Carry your weight well and with confidence, you are gorgeous no matter what anybody says, and if you remember that other people will be able to tell, and confidence and self-respect looks good on anyone.
I know a lot of bigger women who say that because of their self-esteem issues and negative self-image they feel like no matter how hard they try they never look pretty, so they just don't bother. That is a HORRIBLE way to think. I know it can be hard shopping as a big woman, but there are places you can go that aren't super over priced. Wal Mart has really cute plus size clothes for fairly cheap, and I shop at a lot of urban stores marketed more towards black women because they tend to have a much larger selection of bigger clothes that are cute. If you walk around in sweat pants and baggy t-shirts and ponytails and you never wear makeup, you're telling everyone around you that you don't care about yourself enough to make the effort. Do your hair, put on makeup, buy a cute outfit and see if that doesn't make you feel so much better about yourself. Trust me, it will.
I also see a lot of women get really down on themselves after having a baby. I gained A LOT of weight from having my daughter, I am 100 lbs above my pre-pregnancy weight. You had a baby. You created a beautiful life inside you, and carried them for 9 months. Pregnancy and child birth takes a huge toll on your body, and it takes a while to recover. Most women do not just zap right back to their pre prego size, it takes effort for most of us who were not blessed like that. You gained weight because you created a beautiful child, and creating life is never something that should make you feel bad. You should feel accomplished for it, and remember that the extra weight is a consequence of creating the thing you love most in the entire world, and that is was more than worth it to have that beautiful baby.
The most important thing you can do is LOVE YOURSELF and realize that inner beauty has a lot to do with outer beauty. If someone is an ugly human being, I have a hard time finding them attractive even if they're gorgeous on the outside. If you have a great personality and you're a good person, it shows on the outside. You need to think about all the good things you have going for you, whether it's a great sense of humor or you have a beautiful voice or you're artistic or a fantastic cook or a great mother. Always remind yourself that you have a lot of things to be proud of, and a lot to offer the world. Nobody else can love you until you learn to love yourself. How you view yourself is FAR more important than what anyone else thinks, and the people who matter are going to love you no matter if you weigh 80 lbs or 500. If somebody is shallow enough to judge you by your weight even though you have so much more to offer, then they aren't worth your time to begin with.
Confidence plays a huge part in how people perceive you. If you have confidence and class, it shows. Regardless of your weight, remind yourself every single day how beautiful you are. Ignore the haters, because if they have nothing better to do with their time than be nasty and insult you, they're the ones who are pathetic and obviously have something missing in their lives to feel the need to put somebody else down. If you feel fat and unattractive and think you're ugly, it shows. Carry your weight well and with confidence, you are gorgeous no matter what anybody says, and if you remember that other people will be able to tell, and confidence and self-respect looks good on anyone.
I know a lot of bigger women who say that because of their self-esteem issues and negative self-image they feel like no matter how hard they try they never look pretty, so they just don't bother. That is a HORRIBLE way to think. I know it can be hard shopping as a big woman, but there are places you can go that aren't super over priced. Wal Mart has really cute plus size clothes for fairly cheap, and I shop at a lot of urban stores marketed more towards black women because they tend to have a much larger selection of bigger clothes that are cute. If you walk around in sweat pants and baggy t-shirts and ponytails and you never wear makeup, you're telling everyone around you that you don't care about yourself enough to make the effort. Do your hair, put on makeup, buy a cute outfit and see if that doesn't make you feel so much better about yourself. Trust me, it will.
I also see a lot of women get really down on themselves after having a baby. I gained A LOT of weight from having my daughter, I am 100 lbs above my pre-pregnancy weight. You had a baby. You created a beautiful life inside you, and carried them for 9 months. Pregnancy and child birth takes a huge toll on your body, and it takes a while to recover. Most women do not just zap right back to their pre prego size, it takes effort for most of us who were not blessed like that. You gained weight because you created a beautiful child, and creating life is never something that should make you feel bad. You should feel accomplished for it, and remember that the extra weight is a consequence of creating the thing you love most in the entire world, and that is was more than worth it to have that beautiful baby.
The most important thing you can do is LOVE YOURSELF and realize that inner beauty has a lot to do with outer beauty. If someone is an ugly human being, I have a hard time finding them attractive even if they're gorgeous on the outside. If you have a great personality and you're a good person, it shows on the outside. You need to think about all the good things you have going for you, whether it's a great sense of humor or you have a beautiful voice or you're artistic or a fantastic cook or a great mother. Always remind yourself that you have a lot of things to be proud of, and a lot to offer the world. Nobody else can love you until you learn to love yourself. How you view yourself is FAR more important than what anyone else thinks, and the people who matter are going to love you no matter if you weigh 80 lbs or 500. If somebody is shallow enough to judge you by your weight even though you have so much more to offer, then they aren't worth your time to begin with.
Saturday, February 25, 2012
Update 2* Vaccinating
Ok, let's start with one of my BIGGEST parenting pet peeves: anti
vaccination activists. 99% of anti vaccine activists that I have spoken
to spread nothing but misinformation and have no clue what they're
talking about, they just jumped on the bandwagon because it's the "in"
thing to do and are repeating whatever they were told by Google or their
neighbor or a Facebook page. If you're going to make a life decision
like that, AT LEAST do your research. And when I say research, I don't
mean some site written by a nutritionist who never went to medical
school, or by a celebrity or a therapist. I mean a real doctor or a
scientist.
These are some examples of reasons you SHOULD vaccinate your children, and also corrections to many anti-vaccine myths:
1. Vaccines do NOT cause autism. Autism is genetic, not related to vaccines at all. The man who came out with the British study "proving" a link between the two, Dr. Andrew Wakefield, was outed as a complete fraud, and anybody who still believes that crap is a complete idiot. A lot of people like to say he was discredited on purpose and act like it was some big conspiracy, when in reality he went on CNN and admitted that he falsified results.
MMR vaccine and autism
CNN article calling British Study Linking Vaccines and Autism an Elaborate Fraud
2.When more and more people stop vaccinating, herd immunity dies, which puts people who are immune compromised and can't get the vaccines at far greater risk of developing infectious diseases that they would otherwise have been protected from.
3. When people tell you all about the horrible "poisons" in vaccines, they fail to take into account the AMOUNT of these chemicals that are actually in the vaccines, which is SO miniscule that there is no way it will actually "poison" you.
4. There is no link between SIDS and vaccines. Nobody knows the cause of SIDS, if they did it wouldn't be called "Sudden Infant Death Syndrome". The definition of SIDS is when an autopsy cannot determine the cause of death in the SUDDEN DEATH of an infant. So people swearing that all of this crap causes SIDS is ridiculous, because there's no way for anyone to know that.
5. Doctors are not tricking you into vaccinating, they aren't lying to you, and there is no secret hidden agenda to kill your kid and push vaccines. My daughter is on Medicaid, do you really think her doctor makes millions of dollars off vaccinating her? More like losing money. Doctors are not paid by the number of vaccines they give or prescriptions they write, so people who say that have absolutely no idea what they are talking about.
6.Vaccines are so strictly regulated that it takes an average of 15 years and 800 million dollars of the manufacturers money to get a vaccine licensed. Since 1990, the Vaccine Safety Datalink (VSD) has collected statistics from more than 7 million people in health plans who have received vaccines. So after 800 million dollars, 15 years, and 22 years of collecting data, with vaccines still being strongly supported by the medical community, I'm thinking I'll listen to somebody who went to medical school over a celebrity or a facebook page, and you should too.
7. Whenever anyone tells you there is Mercury in vaccines, laugh at them. A lot. There was never mercury in vaccines, there was a Mercury-based preservative, Thimerosal, in most vaccines until 2002 when they started removing it, and as of 2011 the only vaccines that still contain Thimerosal are multi-dose flu shots and tetanus shots. The difference between multi-dose and single-dose flu shots is the packaging, multi-dose is a vial that stores enough vaccine for 10 shots and therefore needs the preservative to keep it from being contaminated by bacteria after opening. Single-dose are just what it says, either a pre-filled syringe or a small plastic container only holding one shot. If you are really that concerned about the presence of Thimerosal, find a clinic offering single-dose shots or just don't get a flu shot at all. CDC Thimerosal and Flu Shots
8. Just because somebody's kid happened to die of SIDS 2 days after getting vaccinated, or developed Tourette's or Asperger's, that does not mean the vaccine is to blame. That's like saying I ate grapes earlier and now I have heartburn, obviously grapes cause heartburn let's put an insert in every grape saying it might give people heartburn. Or hey I watched a scary movie yesterday and now I have an eczema outbreak, scary movies must cause eczema. It's ridiculous.
9. Just because the insert says it, that doesn't mean it has actually been scientifically proven without a doubt to be caused by vaccines. The FDA wants to cover their asses, and therefore anything that hasn't been proven NOT to be caused by vaccines that MAY be linked to vaccines is in the insert. That doesn't mean that when one of the 6,000 rare possible side effects happens to your kid that the vaccine is definitely the cause.
10. Doctors do not make money off vaccines. They do not "push" vaccines because they want to line their pockets. Doctors make nothing off vaccines, and the companies that manufacture then actually LOSE money because insurance companies pay less than what it costs to make them. Doctors push vaccines to protect your child and keep them healthy, not to get rich. Immunize For Good Study posted in Pediatrics
11. Some people like to say that people who are vaccinated get sick more often than non-vaccinated people, but that is very untrue. The people who say this fail to take into account that way more people are vaccinated than aren't, and they look at numbers and percentages without figuring that part in. If you have 100 people, 85 of them are vaccinated and 15 are not. Say 10 of the vaccinated people got sick, and only 3 of the non-vaccinated ones did. That makes it look like vaccinated people are more likely to get sick, if you fail to account for the fact that there are 70 more vaccinated than unvaccinated, so if you look at percentages according to how many people there were, 20% of the non-vaccinated people got sick, compared to 11.8% of the vaccinated ones. CDC Common Misconceptions About Vaccinating
These are only a few of the reason why you NEED to vaccinate your children. I'm going to post a few links below to reputable, informative vaccine sites.
VaccinateYourBaby.org (awesome pro vax site, very informative)
Immunize For Good
CDC
These are some examples of reasons you SHOULD vaccinate your children, and also corrections to many anti-vaccine myths:
1. Vaccines do NOT cause autism. Autism is genetic, not related to vaccines at all. The man who came out with the British study "proving" a link between the two, Dr. Andrew Wakefield, was outed as a complete fraud, and anybody who still believes that crap is a complete idiot. A lot of people like to say he was discredited on purpose and act like it was some big conspiracy, when in reality he went on CNN and admitted that he falsified results.
MMR vaccine and autism
CNN article calling British Study Linking Vaccines and Autism an Elaborate Fraud
2.When more and more people stop vaccinating, herd immunity dies, which puts people who are immune compromised and can't get the vaccines at far greater risk of developing infectious diseases that they would otherwise have been protected from.
3. When people tell you all about the horrible "poisons" in vaccines, they fail to take into account the AMOUNT of these chemicals that are actually in the vaccines, which is SO miniscule that there is no way it will actually "poison" you.
4. There is no link between SIDS and vaccines. Nobody knows the cause of SIDS, if they did it wouldn't be called "Sudden Infant Death Syndrome". The definition of SIDS is when an autopsy cannot determine the cause of death in the SUDDEN DEATH of an infant. So people swearing that all of this crap causes SIDS is ridiculous, because there's no way for anyone to know that.
5. Doctors are not tricking you into vaccinating, they aren't lying to you, and there is no secret hidden agenda to kill your kid and push vaccines. My daughter is on Medicaid, do you really think her doctor makes millions of dollars off vaccinating her? More like losing money. Doctors are not paid by the number of vaccines they give or prescriptions they write, so people who say that have absolutely no idea what they are talking about.
6.Vaccines are so strictly regulated that it takes an average of 15 years and 800 million dollars of the manufacturers money to get a vaccine licensed. Since 1990, the Vaccine Safety Datalink (VSD) has collected statistics from more than 7 million people in health plans who have received vaccines. So after 800 million dollars, 15 years, and 22 years of collecting data, with vaccines still being strongly supported by the medical community, I'm thinking I'll listen to somebody who went to medical school over a celebrity or a facebook page, and you should too.
7. Whenever anyone tells you there is Mercury in vaccines, laugh at them. A lot. There was never mercury in vaccines, there was a Mercury-based preservative, Thimerosal, in most vaccines until 2002 when they started removing it, and as of 2011 the only vaccines that still contain Thimerosal are multi-dose flu shots and tetanus shots. The difference between multi-dose and single-dose flu shots is the packaging, multi-dose is a vial that stores enough vaccine for 10 shots and therefore needs the preservative to keep it from being contaminated by bacteria after opening. Single-dose are just what it says, either a pre-filled syringe or a small plastic container only holding one shot. If you are really that concerned about the presence of Thimerosal, find a clinic offering single-dose shots or just don't get a flu shot at all. CDC Thimerosal and Flu Shots
8. Just because somebody's kid happened to die of SIDS 2 days after getting vaccinated, or developed Tourette's or Asperger's, that does not mean the vaccine is to blame. That's like saying I ate grapes earlier and now I have heartburn, obviously grapes cause heartburn let's put an insert in every grape saying it might give people heartburn. Or hey I watched a scary movie yesterday and now I have an eczema outbreak, scary movies must cause eczema. It's ridiculous.
9. Just because the insert says it, that doesn't mean it has actually been scientifically proven without a doubt to be caused by vaccines. The FDA wants to cover their asses, and therefore anything that hasn't been proven NOT to be caused by vaccines that MAY be linked to vaccines is in the insert. That doesn't mean that when one of the 6,000 rare possible side effects happens to your kid that the vaccine is definitely the cause.
10. Doctors do not make money off vaccines. They do not "push" vaccines because they want to line their pockets. Doctors make nothing off vaccines, and the companies that manufacture then actually LOSE money because insurance companies pay less than what it costs to make them. Doctors push vaccines to protect your child and keep them healthy, not to get rich. Immunize For Good Study posted in Pediatrics
11. Some people like to say that people who are vaccinated get sick more often than non-vaccinated people, but that is very untrue. The people who say this fail to take into account that way more people are vaccinated than aren't, and they look at numbers and percentages without figuring that part in. If you have 100 people, 85 of them are vaccinated and 15 are not. Say 10 of the vaccinated people got sick, and only 3 of the non-vaccinated ones did. That makes it look like vaccinated people are more likely to get sick, if you fail to account for the fact that there are 70 more vaccinated than unvaccinated, so if you look at percentages according to how many people there were, 20% of the non-vaccinated people got sick, compared to 11.8% of the vaccinated ones. CDC Common Misconceptions About Vaccinating
These are only a few of the reason why you NEED to vaccinate your children. I'm going to post a few links below to reputable, informative vaccine sites.
VaccinateYourBaby.org (awesome pro vax site, very informative)
Immunize For Good
CDC
Friday, February 24, 2012
Activist Lactivist Intactivist Whatever
A parenting philosophy that I have a major issue with is moms who call themselves "Inactivists". As far as I have seen, all it means when you say that is that you're extremely judgmental and think everything you do is right and anyone who disagrees with you is wrong and a bad mother. Most Inactivists are anti-circumcision, pro breastfeeding, A LOT of them are anti-vaccines, they're very into doing everything organic like making your own baby food, and ERF (extended rear facing) until your kid is like 4. Some of those things I agree with, and some I don't, but either way you sure as hell don't make friends or change anyone's mind by treating them like crap.
I, myself, am anti-circ. I believe there is nothing wrong with leaving your child's penis the way it is as long as you know how to clean it properly and teach them to do the same. I couldn't bring myself to cause my child pain for something that isnt medically necessary. My daughter's father is intact and has never had a problem with it at all. HOWEVER, if someone else chooses to circumcise their child, I do not think they are a baby mutilator or a child abuser or a bad parent. It's up to the parent what they choose to do. There are reasons to circumcise, like religion and some people think it's better in the long run because of the risk of infections with improperly cleaned intact penises. Trying to encourage people to leave their sons intact is perfectly fine, I see no problem with that. Where it becomes a problem is when it isn't encouragement and instead is harassment and verbal abuse. You can't insult someone or insult their parenting skills or call them ignorant and a child abuser and expect them to listen to you and take your advice, once you offend them they're not gonna take a word you say seriously, and in fact are more likely to do the opposite because you're a total jerk. Nobody wants to agree with somebody who is nasty and hateful towards them.
I am pro breastfeeding. I only breastfed my daughter for about a month because of clogged ducts and I also had PPD pretty bad and needed to get back on my psych meds. I totally agree that breast is best and everyone should at least try to breast feed their child, and if successful continue for at least 6 months. However, once again, if someone chooses to bottle feed their child I do not think it makes them selfish or lazy or a bad mother or that it has anything to do with how much they love their baby. Starving your child means you don't love them, as long as they are getting fed enough, loved, cared for, and you're doing your best as a mother, what does it matter whether you're breast feeding or formula feeding? I'm sick of seeing formula feeding moms degraded and attacked and called every name in the book because there is no valid reason not to breast feed unless you physically do not produce milk, which is crap. You don't know somebody else's life or their situation, you don't know why they decided not to bf or stopped bfing. Breast feeding takes a huge toll on your body, and I can tell you from experience when you're a single mom with a newborn and you never get sleep to begin with, breast feeding takes away what little energy you have and makes you even more tired. Add to that the pain if your ducts get clogged or you get an infection, and you can understand why somebody would stop doing it. A miserable mommy is not a good mommy, if breast feeding is taking away from the quality of care you are giving your child I consider that a very valid reason not to do it. Even if there is no reason and someone just chooses not to do it, it's not your child and it's not your life so it's none of your business.
I make my own baby food as well as using the store-bought stuff. I just personally don't trust companies, and I would rather make it myself and know what she's eating, but to each their own. You all know my take on vaccines so I'm just gonna skip to ERF. I do plan to rear-face my daughter as long as possible, and that is one thing I definitely encourage because not doing it can cause your child serious harm if you get in an accident. Once again, being mean and nasty to people and calling them child abusers and bad parents for forward facing earlier than they should is not going to help them, and it isn't going to change their mind. It's going to offend them and make them defensive. I definitely think if somebody is planning to forward face before a year old that they should be informed of the possible negative consequences of such actions and persuaded to change their mind, but being rude to them is not going to accomplish that, it will just piss them off.
The whole point of my ramblings is that you get more flies with honey than you do with vinegar. Being judgmental never makes you friends, and it makes you a really mean person that most people don't wanna listen to or be friends with. Everyone makes judgments to a point, it's human nature. But what matters is how you act, and if you're mean and nasty and say terrible things and degrade people just for disagreeing with you, that is when it becomes a problem. No one should ever call another mother a bad parent unless she is legitimately hurting her child, as in child abuse or neglect. If you wouldn't want to be spoken to that way or told you're a bad mom who doesn't love your child, you shouldn't do it to anyone else either. Treat others how you would like to be treated.
I, myself, am anti-circ. I believe there is nothing wrong with leaving your child's penis the way it is as long as you know how to clean it properly and teach them to do the same. I couldn't bring myself to cause my child pain for something that isnt medically necessary. My daughter's father is intact and has never had a problem with it at all. HOWEVER, if someone else chooses to circumcise their child, I do not think they are a baby mutilator or a child abuser or a bad parent. It's up to the parent what they choose to do. There are reasons to circumcise, like religion and some people think it's better in the long run because of the risk of infections with improperly cleaned intact penises. Trying to encourage people to leave their sons intact is perfectly fine, I see no problem with that. Where it becomes a problem is when it isn't encouragement and instead is harassment and verbal abuse. You can't insult someone or insult their parenting skills or call them ignorant and a child abuser and expect them to listen to you and take your advice, once you offend them they're not gonna take a word you say seriously, and in fact are more likely to do the opposite because you're a total jerk. Nobody wants to agree with somebody who is nasty and hateful towards them.
I am pro breastfeeding. I only breastfed my daughter for about a month because of clogged ducts and I also had PPD pretty bad and needed to get back on my psych meds. I totally agree that breast is best and everyone should at least try to breast feed their child, and if successful continue for at least 6 months. However, once again, if someone chooses to bottle feed their child I do not think it makes them selfish or lazy or a bad mother or that it has anything to do with how much they love their baby. Starving your child means you don't love them, as long as they are getting fed enough, loved, cared for, and you're doing your best as a mother, what does it matter whether you're breast feeding or formula feeding? I'm sick of seeing formula feeding moms degraded and attacked and called every name in the book because there is no valid reason not to breast feed unless you physically do not produce milk, which is crap. You don't know somebody else's life or their situation, you don't know why they decided not to bf or stopped bfing. Breast feeding takes a huge toll on your body, and I can tell you from experience when you're a single mom with a newborn and you never get sleep to begin with, breast feeding takes away what little energy you have and makes you even more tired. Add to that the pain if your ducts get clogged or you get an infection, and you can understand why somebody would stop doing it. A miserable mommy is not a good mommy, if breast feeding is taking away from the quality of care you are giving your child I consider that a very valid reason not to do it. Even if there is no reason and someone just chooses not to do it, it's not your child and it's not your life so it's none of your business.
I make my own baby food as well as using the store-bought stuff. I just personally don't trust companies, and I would rather make it myself and know what she's eating, but to each their own. You all know my take on vaccines so I'm just gonna skip to ERF. I do plan to rear-face my daughter as long as possible, and that is one thing I definitely encourage because not doing it can cause your child serious harm if you get in an accident. Once again, being mean and nasty to people and calling them child abusers and bad parents for forward facing earlier than they should is not going to help them, and it isn't going to change their mind. It's going to offend them and make them defensive. I definitely think if somebody is planning to forward face before a year old that they should be informed of the possible negative consequences of such actions and persuaded to change their mind, but being rude to them is not going to accomplish that, it will just piss them off.
The whole point of my ramblings is that you get more flies with honey than you do with vinegar. Being judgmental never makes you friends, and it makes you a really mean person that most people don't wanna listen to or be friends with. Everyone makes judgments to a point, it's human nature. But what matters is how you act, and if you're mean and nasty and say terrible things and degrade people just for disagreeing with you, that is when it becomes a problem. No one should ever call another mother a bad parent unless she is legitimately hurting her child, as in child abuse or neglect. If you wouldn't want to be spoken to that way or told you're a bad mom who doesn't love your child, you shouldn't do it to anyone else either. Treat others how you would like to be treated.
Thursday, February 23, 2012
All Bodies Are Good Bodies
The mainstream is always telling women what we should and shouldn't strive to be. Too fat, you're ugly and eat donuts all day. Too skinny, you're anorexic or on drugs. You shouldn't wear that, instead you should wear this. Your hair needs to be longer, shorter, blonder. Well you wanna know something? It's all garbage. Forget every word of it.
As I said in a previous post, I am working to lose weight for health reasons. However, I do not think weight or body type has anything to do with beauty. You can be a size 0 or a size 30 and still be gorgeous. True beauty has no weight limit. I know some GORGEOUS women who are plus sized, and some ugly ones who are tiny. True beauty has to do with not only what's on the outside, but what's inside too. Somebody can look like a playboy bunny on the outside, but if they're ugly on the inside I don't know about the rest of you but I don't find them attractive. Inner ugliness detracts from outer beauty. Not to mention, every person has a different idea of what is beautiful. Some men are attracted to primarily big women, some primarily small women, and the same concept goes for everyone. Some people like dark hair, or blue eyes, or tall girls, or short girls, you get the point. Everyone is not going to find the exact same thing attractive, and that's part of what makes us unique.
The most important thing to remember no matter what your size is that CONFIDENCE MATTERS! Be happy with who you are. It's ok to want to better yourself, but do it for you not for anybody else. Who cares what Cosmo says, or some guy, or the bitchy girl at work? What matters is what you think of yourself. If you're confident in who you are, it shows. People notice it. People are drawn to confidence, nobody wants to be around a Debbie Downer who puts herself down all the time. Jesus Christ had haters, do you really think any of the rest of us are exempt? No matter how big or small you are or what you look like, somebody isn't gonna like it. You have to love yourself regardless, you shouldn't rely on other people in order to feel good about yourself. Confidence and self-respect are beautiful! You can weigh 90lbs or 400 and if you're confident in who you are and what you look like, you're fabulous. I just wish more women would stop trying to change themselves to please other people, when really the only person you should be trying to please is YOU! You're all beautiful, and don't let anybody tell you differently.
As I said in a previous post, I am working to lose weight for health reasons. However, I do not think weight or body type has anything to do with beauty. You can be a size 0 or a size 30 and still be gorgeous. True beauty has no weight limit. I know some GORGEOUS women who are plus sized, and some ugly ones who are tiny. True beauty has to do with not only what's on the outside, but what's inside too. Somebody can look like a playboy bunny on the outside, but if they're ugly on the inside I don't know about the rest of you but I don't find them attractive. Inner ugliness detracts from outer beauty. Not to mention, every person has a different idea of what is beautiful. Some men are attracted to primarily big women, some primarily small women, and the same concept goes for everyone. Some people like dark hair, or blue eyes, or tall girls, or short girls, you get the point. Everyone is not going to find the exact same thing attractive, and that's part of what makes us unique.
The most important thing to remember no matter what your size is that CONFIDENCE MATTERS! Be happy with who you are. It's ok to want to better yourself, but do it for you not for anybody else. Who cares what Cosmo says, or some guy, or the bitchy girl at work? What matters is what you think of yourself. If you're confident in who you are, it shows. People notice it. People are drawn to confidence, nobody wants to be around a Debbie Downer who puts herself down all the time. Jesus Christ had haters, do you really think any of the rest of us are exempt? No matter how big or small you are or what you look like, somebody isn't gonna like it. You have to love yourself regardless, you shouldn't rely on other people in order to feel good about yourself. Confidence and self-respect are beautiful! You can weigh 90lbs or 400 and if you're confident in who you are and what you look like, you're fabulous. I just wish more women would stop trying to change themselves to please other people, when really the only person you should be trying to please is YOU! You're all beautiful, and don't let anybody tell you differently.
Updated* Vaccinating
Ok, let's start with one of my BIGGEST parenting pet peeves: anti vaccination activists. 99% of anti vaccine activists that I have spoken to spread nothing but misinformation and have no clue what they're talking about, they just jumped on the bandwagon because it's the "in" thing to do and are repeating whatever they were told by Google or their neighbor or a Facebook page. If you're going to make a life decision like that, AT LEAST do your research. And when I say research, I don't mean some site written by a nutritionist who never went to medical school, or by a celebrity or a therapist. I mean a real doctor or a scientist.
These are some examples of reasons you SHOULD vaccinate your children, and also corrections to many anti-vaccine myths:
1. Vaccines do NOT cause autism. Autism is genetic, not related to vaccines at all. The man who came out with the British study "proving" a link between the two, Dr. Andrew Wakefield, was outed as a complete fraud, and anybody who still believes that crap is a complete idiot.
MMR vaccine and autism
CNN article calling British Study Linking Vaccines and Autism an Elaborate Fraud
2.When more and more people stop vaccinating, herd immunity dies, which puts people who are immune compromised and can't get the vaccines at far greater risk of developing infectious diseases that they would otherwise have been protected from.
3. When people tell you all about the horrible "poisons" in vaccines, they fail to take into account the AMOUNT of these chemicals that are actually in the vaccines, which is SO miniscule that there is no way it will actually "poison" you.
4. There is no link between SIDS and vaccines. Nobody knows the cause of SIDS, if they did it wouldn't be called "Sudden Infant Death Syndrome". The definition of SIDS is when an autopsy cannot determine the cause of death in the SUDDEN DEATH of an infant. So people swearing that all of this crap causes SIDS is ridiculous, because there's no way for anyone to know that.
5. Doctors are not tricking you into vaccinating, they aren't lying to you, and there is no secret hidden agenda to kill your kid and push vaccines. My daughter is on Medicaid, do you really think her doctor makes millions of dollars off vaccinating her? More like losing money. Doctors are not paid by the number of vaccines they give or prescriptions they write, so people who say that have absolutely no idea what they are talking about.
6.Vaccines are so strictly regulated that it takes an average of 15 years and 800 million dollars of the manufacturers money to get a vaccine licensed. Since 1990, the Vaccine Safety Datalink (VSD) has collected statistics from more than 7 million people in health plans who have received vaccines. So after 800 million dollars, 15 years, and 22 years of collecting data, with vaccines still being strongly supported by the medical community, I'm thinking I'll listen to somebody who went to medical school over a celebrity or a facebook page, and you should too.
7. Whenever anyone tells you there is Mercury in vaccines, laugh at them. A lot. There was never mercury in vaccines, there was a Mercury-based preservative, Thimerosal, in most vaccines until 2002 when they started removing it, and as of 2011 the only vaccines that still contain Thimerosal are multi-dose flu shots and tetanus shots. The difference between multi-dose and single-dose flu shots is the packaging, multi-dose is a vial that stores enough vaccine for 10 shots and therefore needs the preservative to keep it from being contaminated by bacteria after opening. Single-dose are just what it says, either a pre-filled syringe or a small plastic container only holding one shot. If you are really that concerned about the presence of Thimerosal, find a clinic offering single-dose shots or just don't get a flu shot at all. CDC Thimerosal and Flu Shots
8. Just because somebody's kid happened to die of SIDS 2 days after getting vaccinated, or developed Tourette's or Asperger's, that does not mean the vaccine is to blame. That's like saying I ate grapes earlier and now I have heartburn, obviously grapes cause heartburn let's put an insert in every grape saying it might give people heartburn. Or hey I watched a scary movie yesterday and now I have an eczema outbreak, scary movies must cause eczema. It's ridiculous.
9. Just because the insert says it, that doesn't mean it has actually been scientifically proven without a doubt to be caused by vaccines. The FDA wants to cover their asses, and therefore anything that hasn't been proven NOT to be caused by vaccines that MAY be linked to vaccines is in the insert. That doesn't mean that when one of the 6,000 rare possible side effects happens to your kid that the vaccine is definitely the cause.
These are only a few of the reason why you NEED to vaccinate your children. This is a website explaining things further, I STRONGLY SUGGEST YOU CHECK IT OUT, and I will also probably continuously update and re post this entry. VaccinateYourBaby.org (awesome pro vax site, very informative)
Wednesday, February 22, 2012
The Biggest Loser
Before I had my daughter I was pretty chunky, and after I had her I gained 100 lbs above my already chunky weight. I always say that weight doesn't define beauty and you can be big and still be gorgeous, and that is very true, I still believe that. However, today I weighed myself and I actually gained 5 lbs. After I saw that I was extremely disappointed, and instead of eating a piece of pizza like I had been planning, I turned on The Biggest Loser on Netflix and got out the elliptical, and essentially busted my ass for 25 minutes. I'm sweating buckets but I definitely prefer that to pizza. Every time I watch this show it makes me cry, like I was legitimately sobbing while working out. I watch it and I see how hard these people work and that they have to leave their children and their families, and I see how bad their health is and how most of them are at least pre diabetic if not full blown, with a way higher risk for heart attacks and other health problems, and I don't want my 8 month old to lose her mom, or to think it's ok to weigh over 300 lbs and sit in front of the computer and tv all day instead of exercising. Joint problems run in my family, and I don't want to end up like my mother who hobbles everywhere and can barely walk upstairs, and has trouble walking at all and needs a knee replacement that she can't even get because of her weight. I want to be able to have another child in a couple years and not have my weight possibly effect my pregnancy, and be able to take cute belly pictures, and I couldn't do that at this point. I want to be able to run around with my children and play with them without getting out of breath. If I want to do all these things I need to make a SERIOUS change in my habits, I don't eat too terribly but I eat too much and I don't exercise NEARLY enough. Even with my current habits if I just worked out half an hour a day on the elliptical I should start losing weight. Looks are not a valid reason to lose weight, but health is. I want to be healthy for my daughter if not for myself. I think I'm pretty that isn't the issue, and when I watch this show I realize how unhealthy I really am because there are people on here who weigh LESS than I do who are pre diabetic and their inner age is almost twice their actual age. It's a major motivator, I can say that much.
Teen Mom
Am I the only person who DOESN'T watch Teen Mom? Those girls are HORRIBLE examples for teenagers, they make it look like you can have a kid and still party and screw around all the time, and get by perfectly fine with no job, which is garbage. MTV tries to make it look like they struggle, they do not struggle they make 200,000 dollars a season for Teen Mom. They party and get in fights and act a fool and make it look like getting pregnant at 16 is cool and fun and can make you famous, when in reality it's hard and it sucks and the minute you have a baby your childhood is over. When you're a kid, you need to BE A KID and not a parent. I know not all teen mothers are bad moms, but it's sad that they have to give up their childhood to raise a child. Those reality show idiots are NOT good parents. When 80% of your Facebook pictures are of you drunk and partying when you're not even old enough to drink, I wouldn't call that great parenting. What are these girls' kids gonna think when they get older and watch Teen Mom and see all the party pictures and bs all over the internet? I'm 24, and being a parent isn't easy. I can't imagine doing it at 16. Teen girls need realistic role models, and a realistic view of what it's like to be a teen mom. They need to see girls who struggle with money, and have to have a job and go to school AND be a mom, not girls who pawn their kids off on their parents and have nice cars and plenty of money to get their hair and nails done.
Monday, February 20, 2012
My kid, my choices
One of my big issues with other moms is that so many of them are SO judgmental. If you feed your kid fast food or let them eat Doritos you're a bad parent, if you spank your kid you're a child abuser, if you circumcise you're a baby mutilator, if you don't breastfeed you're selfish and lazy and don't love your kid enough. NONE of these things make you a bad parent, they're just parenting choices. What do you care if I give my kid a happy meal every once in a while? All the time def isn't healthy, but in moderation it doesn't hurt anything. The only things that really make you a bad parent are things that will permanently hurt your child, be it psychologically or physically. As long as your child is getting fed, bathed, has clothes, you spend time with them, love them, and do your best for them you're a great mother, regardless of any of the choices I just mentioned. Having a different parenting style DOES NOT make you a bad mom, and forcing your beliefs and views on others doesn't change their mind, you just look like an asshole. Actually, people are LESS likely to listen to you when you're mean to them. I just wish some people would get that through their thick skulls. You don't make friends or prove your point by being nasty to people.
Sunday, February 19, 2012
Vaccinating
Ok, let's start with one of my BIGGEST parenting pet peeves: anti vaccination activists. Not vaccinating is stupid, irresponsible, and selfish. And here are my reasons why this is the truth:
1. Vaccines do NOT cause autism. Autism is genetic, not related to vaccines at all. The man who came out with the British study "proving" a link between the two, Dr. Andrew Wakefield, was outed as a complete fraud, and anybody who still believes that crap is a complete idiot.
MMR vaccine and autism
CNN article calling British Study Linking Vaccines and Autism an Elaborate Fraud
2.When more and more people stop vaccinating, herd immunity dies, which puts people who are immune compromised and can't get the vaccines at far greater risk of developing infectious diseases that they would otherwise have been protected from.
3. When people tell you all about the horrible "poisons" in vaccines, they fail to take into account the AMOUNT of these chemicals that are actually in the vaccines, which is SO miniscule that there is no way it will actually "poison" you. And there is NO MERCURY in vaccines. Thimerosal, the mercury-based preservative found in vaccines had been removed from ALL vaccines as of 2010.
March of Dimes, Childhood Vaccines Save Lives
4. There is no link between SIDS and vaccines. Nobody knows the cause of SIDS, if they did it wouldn't be called "Sudden Infant Death Syndrome". The definition of SIDS is when an autopsy cannot determine the cause of death in the SUDDEN DEATH of an infant. So people swearing that all of this crap causes SIDS is ridiculous, because there's no way for anyone to know that.
5. Doctors are not tricking you into vaccinating, they aren't lying to you, and there is no secret hidden agenda to kill your kid and push vaccines. My daughter is on Medicaid, do you really think her doctor makes millions of dollars off vaccinating her? More like losing money. Doctors are not paid by the number of vaccines they give or prescriptions they write, so people who say that have absolutely no idea what they are talking about.
6.Vaccines are so strictly regulated that it takes an average of 15 years and 800 million dollars of the manufacturers money to get a vaccine licensed. Since 1990, the Vaccine Safety Datalink (VSD) has collected statistics from more than 7 million people in health plans who have received vaccines. So after 800 million dollars, 15 years, and 22 years of collecting data, with vaccines still being strongly supported by the medical community, I'm thinking I'll listen to somebody who went to medical school over a celebrity or a facebook page, and you should too.
These are only a few of the reason why you NEED to vaccinate your children. This is a website explaining things further, I STRONGLY SUGGEST YOU CHECK IT OUT, and I will also probably continuously update and re post this entry.
Vaccinate Your Baby
1. Vaccines do NOT cause autism. Autism is genetic, not related to vaccines at all. The man who came out with the British study "proving" a link between the two, Dr. Andrew Wakefield, was outed as a complete fraud, and anybody who still believes that crap is a complete idiot.
MMR vaccine and autism
CNN article calling British Study Linking Vaccines and Autism an Elaborate Fraud
2.When more and more people stop vaccinating, herd immunity dies, which puts people who are immune compromised and can't get the vaccines at far greater risk of developing infectious diseases that they would otherwise have been protected from.
3. When people tell you all about the horrible "poisons" in vaccines, they fail to take into account the AMOUNT of these chemicals that are actually in the vaccines, which is SO miniscule that there is no way it will actually "poison" you. And there is NO MERCURY in vaccines. Thimerosal, the mercury-based preservative found in vaccines had been removed from ALL vaccines as of 2010.
March of Dimes, Childhood Vaccines Save Lives
4. There is no link between SIDS and vaccines. Nobody knows the cause of SIDS, if they did it wouldn't be called "Sudden Infant Death Syndrome". The definition of SIDS is when an autopsy cannot determine the cause of death in the SUDDEN DEATH of an infant. So people swearing that all of this crap causes SIDS is ridiculous, because there's no way for anyone to know that.
5. Doctors are not tricking you into vaccinating, they aren't lying to you, and there is no secret hidden agenda to kill your kid and push vaccines. My daughter is on Medicaid, do you really think her doctor makes millions of dollars off vaccinating her? More like losing money. Doctors are not paid by the number of vaccines they give or prescriptions they write, so people who say that have absolutely no idea what they are talking about.
6.Vaccines are so strictly regulated that it takes an average of 15 years and 800 million dollars of the manufacturers money to get a vaccine licensed. Since 1990, the Vaccine Safety Datalink (VSD) has collected statistics from more than 7 million people in health plans who have received vaccines. So after 800 million dollars, 15 years, and 22 years of collecting data, with vaccines still being strongly supported by the medical community, I'm thinking I'll listen to somebody who went to medical school over a celebrity or a facebook page, and you should too.
These are only a few of the reason why you NEED to vaccinate your children. This is a website explaining things further, I STRONGLY SUGGEST YOU CHECK IT OUT, and I will also probably continuously update and re post this entry.
Vaccinate Your Baby
Introduction
Well. First blog post. I never had a blog before, so this should be interesting. Let's start with the basics. My name is Lizz, I'm a 24 year old single mom from the Quad Cities IL/IA but I currently reside in Kansas City, MO. I have a daughter named Olivia Margaret who was born June 5, 2011. She's my whole world and then some. I do still have contact with her dad, Jimi, we have a...complicated relationship to say the least. I'm not your typical mom, I cuss a lot (although I'm trying to tone it down so Olivia doesn't pick it up), I have a big mouth and VERY strong opinions. A lot of people don't understand my sense of humor and just think I'm rude and a total bitch or completely insane. I'm also bipolar and have borderline personality disorder. I was homeless for 2 years, throughout most of my pregnancy, and moved to KCMO with my cousin when I was 7 months pregnant. I rant about stuff a lot, a lot of things annoy me. I'm probably one of the only high school drop outs in the world with a genius IQ who was in honors classes. I plan on going to cosmetology school, but because of problems with my GED because I took it in a tiny hick town in Illinois, even though I passed with flying colors I don't have the certificate. Because of these issues I am currently a SAHM, which is ok with me because I loooove spending time with my little cutiepie. I have a very unique outlook on life and have been through a lot, so I figured maybe I could be good at blogging, so we'll see how this works out.
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